Listening again
“We love each other. But at some point, we stopped truly listening to each other.”
ONLY LOVE is about talking with each other again instead of against each other - and understanding what lies behind reactions and misunderstandings.
O N L YL O V E
W E T O G E T H E R
You keep drifting further apart
Does your relationship
no longer feel easy?
Conversations end in misunderstandings, silence, or withdrawal.
The same conflicts keep coming back and wear you out.
You can feel something slipping and don't know how to stop it.
Appointments available evenings and weekends
Send me a quick note about what's on your mind.
I'll get back to you soon.
You don't have to go through this alone
I'M DIRK.
I CAN HELP YOU FIND
CLARITY AND CONNECTION
DIRK KARTES
- Certified Harvard-model mediator and mentor
- Grounded in sociology and philosophy
- Diploma, International Association of Coaching Institutes, St. Gallen
- Certified Mental Health First Aider (MHFA, adult program)
- My work is grounded in modern attachment research
- A relationship coach
Write a message
I look forward to meeting you.
“Love is like architecture, in which old and new ‘rooms’ can be designed.”
Loosely based on Dr. Sue Johnson – psychologist and relationship researcher
Many couples don't need therapy
Who My Work Is Right For.
For relationships that don't feel sick or lost,
but no longer feel easy, clear, and connected either.
For singles who want a lasting relationship.
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Maybe you’ll recognize yourselves - or yourself - here.
Noticing distance early
“Nothing is really broken. Still, we feel ourselves drifting further and further apart.”
Sometimes it's worth taking a closer look - before distance turns into indifference.
Rebuilding trust
“We've hurt each other and don't know how to rebuild trust.”
ONLY LOVE isn't about who is right. It's about understanding what is happening between two people - and what both can change.
Finding each other again
“Kids, careers, logistics - at some point, we're mainly a pretty good team. But hardly a couple anymore.”
It's about finding each other again as a couple - without having to question your life together.
Looking beyond the conflict
“We argue about little things. But it's never really just about the dishwasher, the money, or the message on the phone.”
At ONLY LOVE, we look at what really lies behind a conflict.
Understanding yourself
“First, I want to understand what I need and what I keep doing in relationships.”
On your own, too, it can help to look at yourself more clearly - without blame and without ready-made answers.
Navigating blended family life
“My blended family challenges me more than I wanted to admit. Before asking others to change, I want to start with myself.”
ONLY LOVE can be a place to sort things out, understand them, and discover what you can change yourself.
Understanding relationship patterns
“I'm single and want to understand why I keep reaching similar points in relationships.”
It's not about what is ‘wrong’ with you, but about better understanding your own patterns, needs, and boundaries.
Between closeness and distance
“When someone gets close, I pull away. And still, I'm afraid of being alone.”
Distance is often not a flaw but a shield: it's meant to keep you from getting hurt again. At some point, though, it protects you from everything - including what you long for. ONLY LOVE helps you understand your pattern and let closeness in without losing yourself.
For singles, too
You're single? That's a topic too.
It's not only couples who have questions. Singles, too, may be dealing with patterns, closeness, loss, or the wish for a fulfilling relationship.
- Why do my relationships keep ending the same way?
- How can I let someone close without losing myself?
- What do I really need – and what am I just expecting of myself?
At O N L YL O V E everyone is welcome – whatever your age or stage of life, straight, queer, or more.
Appointments are available at short notice – also remotely, in the evenings, and on weekends.
The O N L YL O V E home base: a quiet courtyard loft at Gabelsbergerstraße 40, Munich-Maxvorstadt (subway U2/U8, Theresienstraße).
Sessions also available remotely, nationwide and internationally.
